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The Power of the Only

Apr 7, 2020

Stuck at home, but busier than ever?  With the zoom meetings, homeschooling, cooking, cleaning, making sure everyone is healthy and safe, managing your business, making sure you don’t run out of groceries or toilet paper.  It’s a lot?

How are we handling it all?  Are you handling it all?     It’s Ok if the answer is No.  All of us are adjusting to this new world we live in there is no right way….just the way that works for you and your family.  But while we know that in our heads, living it is a different story.

I’ve been in action mode-how can I serve? How can I prepare?  I’ve been busy serving my clients, recording relevant podcast episodes, updating my equipment for video keynotes, taking care of my kids, making sure my parents are safe and making sure I deliver as a leader.  It’s a lot.

You probably have your own list……so today is a reminder to not get sucked into to this hamster wheel of productivity and stress.

Give yourself grace and I will do the same.

I recorded this episode with Dr. Valerie Rein last month before the world shifted, but her message is more relevant than ever and she shares simple tools that will help you through this time and in the future.

"Our pain oftentimes opens gates to our mission in life." - Dr. Valerie Rein

Why is it that many women feel stuck on the hamster wheel of achievement or to-dos’ or we may look like we have it all together on the outside, yet feel burnt out or unfulfilled on the inside?

My guest today, Dr. Valerie Rein wants to shift the conversation from 'how much can I bear?' to 'how good can it get?'

A psychologist, women’s mental health expert and business consultant, Dr. Valerie created “the only” science-backed system for helping women achieve their ultimate success, happiness, and fulfillment.  Dr. Valerie's latest book is called Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment. She holds a Masters of Education in Psychological Counseling from Columbia University and a PhD from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology.

"We're so conditioned to think that there's something wrong with us. Again, that is a very patriarchal conditioning.” - Dr. Valerie Rein

In this episode, we talk about how you can start thriving instead of surviving, why you may be feeling dissatisfied in spite of your achievements, and why it’s not your fault.

Dr. Valerie also shares about her journey as a young child growing up in Russia to moving to the US in her 20’s striving to check off all the boxes of success until a pivotal moment in the ER led to this groundbreaking work to help women truly thrive. She talks about how she almost didn’t write the book and shares tools to help you navigate when you’re stepping into your next level work. She also gives you resources and tools to help you heal and discusses how this work also impacts men, our communities and organizations.

"It takes stillness and desire to find that true calling." - Dr. Valerie Rein

Show Notes:

  • What are causes of stress for women
  • The REAL STRUGGLE for high achieving women
  • What is Patriarchy stress disorder
  • How trauma gets passed down genetically
  • Why women are struggling
  • What is the first step to healing
  • How your body remembers trauma
  • How to rewire the nervous system
  • What is success?
  • The BUSY-NESS addiction
  • How to find your true calling

"Stop the madness of just spinning and running fast in the wheel of achievement when it's not bringing us any closer to fulfillment and happiness." - Dr. Valerie Rein

3 Pieces of Advice or Action Steps:

  1. Whatever you think is wrong with you. It is not you and there is nothing wrong with you. There are other factors at play.
  2. Recognize your preciousness and connect with others who people who can recognize your preciousness.
  3. Whatever it is that you need to stay happy, peaceful, and relaxed - do it!

"You can be busy and fulfilled." - Dr. Valerie Rein

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